Pre-Marriage & Marriage Coaching

A customizable, research-based approach for all stages of dating, engagement, and marriage.

What You Get

  • ✺ The Story

    By uncovering the story of each of you, individually, and the story of you, together, we begin to understand what has formed you as well as what is currently forming you. Topics such as family of origin, genetics, challenges, choices, and habits, usually come up during this discussion.

  • ✺ Foundations

    We discuss foundational aspects of life and marriage, such as understanding one another’s personalities and communication style, margins, boundaries, values, passions, and beliefs. Using research from neuroscience and psychology, we also consider how thoughts and emotions affect how we interact with one another.

  • ✺ Communication

    A deeper dive into the complexities of human interaction through communication. We investigate how family of origin, previous relationships, personalities, habits, shame and trauma can affect our current communication with our partner.

  • ✺ It's Complicated

    We discuss some of the most complex aspects of marriage…the topics often named as those things that produce the most conflict. How do we effectively navigate decisions about our finances, intimacy, parenting, blending families, and more?

  • ✺ Imagine

    Our stories, up until this point, are already written. What happens in the future, however, is still to be determined. By considering hopes, dreams, and goals, we can now look toward the future. What foundations need to be in place to establish a healthy relationship for the future?

  • ✺ The Rule of Life

    As we complete our coaching, we will review all that you have learned about one another over the past weeks and then you will create your rule of life, for each of you individually as well as for you together. May the foundation you received here be the base upon which your marriage is built…a marriage of compassion, forgiveness, partnership, faith, and love.

Details

Schedule:

  • 6-8 sessions, either weekly or every two weeks, depending on your preference.

  • Meeting times are flexible and according to your schedule and will take place online, unless you live in Chicago or the suburbs and prefer to meet in person.

Commitment:

  • Both people must commit to attend all sessions, unless it is determined that an individual session is needed.

  • Some work and/or reading will be required between sessions.

Cost:

Each coaching session is $65, payable through Venmo, Zelle, Cash or Check. As with all Resilient Reed Services, however, financial assistance is available if needed.